Have you seen the latest terms for mothers? Silky, Crunchy, and Scrunchy? Basically it puts mothers in these 3 categories.
- Silky is supposed to be a “modern” mother who prefers a medicated hospital birth, disposable diapers, bottle feeding, crib sleeping, etc.
- Crunchy in my opinion is like a modern day hippie; breast feeding, cloth diapering, co-sleeping, natural, home births, etc.
- Scrunchy would be a combination of silky and crunchy.
Am I the only mother who is NOT OKAY WITH THIS?
Don’t we have enough pressure on us already? Pressure to keep up with the house, make sure everyone else is taken care of, pressure to fit in Bible time and exercise, disciplining our children, guiding them, and educating them. Pressure to budget and work on our family finances. Pressure to keep up with friendships. We have enough to worry about! It’s hard enough just living life in these times. Times where social media is rampant and adds more and more guilt to us mothers. Tell me I’m not alone! Even though I know that I do my best to make life interesting for my kids, I feel pressure to post it on Facebook, just because I want all the other mommies to know that I do stuff with my kids too.
We already compare ourselves to each other so much!
Do we really need more titles?
She homeschools. She bakes great meals all the time for her family. She uses all natural products and cloth diapers. She makes her own baby food. She balances work and family life. She breast feeds. She bottle feeds. Her baby sleeps in his own crib. She had him in a hospital. You know what? I don’t care what kind of products you use, whether you work or choose to stay home, whether you bottle feed or breast feed.
All I care about and all you should care about too, is that you do the very best you can with what God has given you to love your children with all of your heart.
Many moms, including myself would’ve loved to parent a certain way, but that’s not how it worked out. For example, I wanted natural births, but I ended up with 2 emergency c-sections. Does that make me less of a “crunchy” momma? Better yet, does that make my love for my children any less? No it doesn’t!
I refuse to beat myself up over these man (woman)-given titles. God’s plans have thankfully prevailed in my life, regardless of how I expected things to turn out. He has a reason for my c-sections. He has a plan for all the pain I went through, just trying to make it one more day with breastfeeding. His plans for calling me to quit my job of 10 years to homeschool my kids is becoming more clear to me each day. I can’t wear my baby no matter how many different brands of gear I try. It just doesn’t work for me. So, thank God for strollers and strong arms!
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. ~ Jeremiah 29:11
Let’s take more time focusing on God’s plans for us, instead of trying to fit into certain categories. Follow His plans and you will prosper in so many ways!
My name is Amanda and I’m a mom! A mom that loves my kids with all of my heart. That’s all that matters! I have peace!
Be blessed my friends!
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