The Face of Depression
“Take a good look at that face. Go ahead, do it. What do you see? Do you see a happy, glowing mother-to-be? I bet you do, just like many others who have commented on my Facebook page about how beautiful and glowing I look. Do you want to know a secret? This was a picture taken on the one or two days out of the week where I actually got out of my pajamas, took a shower, and put on a little bit of makeup.
Behind that “beautiful smile” is a mom who feels so ugly most days that it hurts. A mom who doesn’t get out of the house enough. She’s isolated herself from many. She uses germs as an excuse (although a true fear), it’s still an excuse. Most of the time she’s covered head to toe in baby snot, tears, food, drinks, or something else. Most of the time she’s so tired that she requires a daily nap and that’s still not enough. This is the face of a mother who is hiding depression.
I have struggled off and on with depression since I was a teenager.”
Those words were written about 2 years ago when I was pregnant with our last son.
I can’t remember why I didn’t finish writing out my thoughts. It had to be the depression itself, exhaustion, or a needy child. Perhaps it was a combination of the three. Anyway, I want to take the time and finish it today to share it with you for three reasons.
#1 ~ I want you to know that if you are in a season like I was, it won’t last forever! That’s what Satan wants you to think. He gets in your mind and says that things will never change. God’s Word says, “Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning.” Psalm 30:5
#2 ~ I want you to realize that you never really know what someone else is going through. They can appear to be living a wonderful, joyous life. Their face may look just like all the others that you pass. But on the inside, they’re hurting. Maybe they force a smile because they don’t know what else to do. Maybe they don’t talk about it because they worry what others will think. Don’t assume that you really know what’s going on with people. Listen! Take the time to really get to know people. They may need someone close enough that they feel comfortable opening up to.
#3 ~ If you know someone dealing with depression, please be there for them. This is definitely not the time to walk away from a friendship. You may be the only hope they have. The Bible says, “A friend loves at all times.” Proverbs 17:17 When I stop and think about this verse, it makes me think about the very few people who stood by my side during those times of depression. Those were real friends. And then I think of the relationships that I lost. Man, how that hurts. I want to cry all over again, just thinking about how easily some people give up on relationships. I know that if you have never truly experienced depression, it’s really hard to understand the people in your life who are going through it. But just because you don’t understand it, that doesn’t make it okay for you to turn your back on them. The best thing you can do is just show up. Show them that you care. They may say that they don’t want company, but usually, they do. They just want to see who really cares. They need to know you are there for them.
I finish this tonight with a thankful heart. I’m grateful to God for bringing me through the storms. I’m thankful that even through the pain I endured, that He made me stronger and opened my eyes to all that He has blessed me with. If you’re in the midst of a storm, I would love to pray for you. Just leave a comment. I don’t need details unless you want to share. God knows!
Be blessed my friends!