What my Mom Night Out Taught Me
Last night I got together with a few other moms. One of them I am friends with and the other 3, I hadn’t met before. It was so refreshing having that time out away from the usual, mundane life. My night out gave me a new perspective about a couple of things.
#1 We moms NEED to step away on occasion.
I have spent so much of my life being everything for everyone, especially those living in my home. Cooking, cleaning, teaching, feeding babies, scheduling appointments, paying bills…BORING! But necessary and I guess that’s just what moms do. Anytime I’ve ever stepped away to do something for myself, it was followed with extreme guilt. Sound familiar? Why do we do this to ourselves?
I’m not sure exactly when it happened, but somewhere along the way, I lost myself. I forgot who I was. I’ve spent so much of my life pouring into others that I didn’t realize I was literally burying myself. That’s where I am now, 10 feet under a heavy load of dirt. Or at least that’s how it feels.
Have you ever been on an airplane? When they’re going over the safety instructions, they tell you that in case of an emergency, put on your oxygen mask first, before you try to help someone else. You’re no good to anyone else if you’re passed out! The same is true for motherhood. Do you wonder why you’re always grouchy, angry, and tired? It’s because you don’t take care of yourself!
Start today! Think about who you were before kids. How can you get a piece of that back?
I’m the one who scheduled the mom group last night and let me tell you, it was out of my comfort zone and I was terrified that no one would show up. But once I pushed through my fears and made it happen, we spent 3 hours together, eating food and having great conversation. Get out of your comfort zone! It’s worth it!
I completely understand that sometimes it’s difficult doing things without the kids, but some of you aren’t even doing stuff with your kids. And you wonder why your crazy! I’m not judging at all because this was exactly who I was this entire winter. And you know what it go me? High blood pressure and anxiety! Get out of the house even if you have to drag the kids along. Even if it’s freezing or raining outside. It won’t kill you to get out and play in the snow or the rain. I hate all of the preparing and the cleanup for times like that, but I’ve never regretted it.
My whole point is that we need to start putting on our oxygen masks so we can be better moms. Stop feeling guilty for it too because when you are a happier, healthier mom, your kids will be so blessed by it.
#2 There are a lot of broken people in this world.
Last night, we all allowed ourselves to be vulnerable. That’s a really scary thing to do, especially when you don’t know the other people. But I’m so thankful for the conversation that was had because it made me realize that I’m not alone in my loneliness and brokenness. I’m so amazed by these other lady’s stories. They all touched me in one way or another and most of their stories really resonated with me.
I walked away thinking, “Wow! I wonder how many others are walking around, holding their heads high with a smile on their face, while dealing with things that no one else really knows about?”
You truly don’t know what most people are going through. We’re sort of trained to keep the negative parts of our lives to ourselves. We’re afraid that no one understands or that we’ll be judged or rejected. I want to encourage you to reach out and talk to someone about those dark parts of your life. I know it’s hard to trust people, but if you can find the right person, it’s so worth it. It’s very refreshing to have another shoulder to cry on.
Let’s stop carrying the hurt all by ourselves! God never intended us to carry all of these burdens.
First of all, His Word says in Psalm 55:22 to “Cast your burden upon the Lord and He will sustain you; He will never allow the righteous to be shaken.” And secondly, Ecclesiastes 4:9 says, “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor.”
God doesn’t want us to go through life alone. Pray that He will put the right people in your life. It’s such a blessing to have someone else to talk to. You may just find others who are going through similar situations.
Lastly, keep your eyes and heart open! Be on the lookout for others who need someone just like yourself. Pray for discernment and boldness and let God be your guide.
Let me know how I can be praying for you!
Be blessed my friends!